We are constantly encouraged to be good at everything. Be organized and analytical, yet highly creative and able to think out the box. Be an extrovert as well as being an introvert, be a great leader, but also a competent follower… sounds confusing, doesn’t it?
Say you could be all of them; you have all these characteristics, but how would you describe yourself? What makes you stand out?
The honest answer is, to be honest, nothing. Because you might be good at everything, but you won’t be great at any one thing. In other words, you’ll be a jack of all trades, but a master of none.
Many want to be really good at everything. You want to be able to do math like her, you want to be able to have swift handles like him, you want to communicate effectively like her; you constantly compare yourself to other people and, as a result, end up feel inadequate. “I’m not good enough.”
If you truly want to be great, then aim to be a master of your own personality traits and not so much what everyone else has. No one person is the same. If that were true then the world would be fairly boring.
Through finding and working out your own traits, you’ll find you have a genuine interest and passion in your everyday life. For instance, if you realise you have a very theoretical and analytical mind, you might enjoy math. You’ll go beyond what is required for you to study because you simply are intrigued by its complexity. After this increased level of passion you’ll eventually attain some level of success in that area and your motivation and confidence will then rise. Once your self-esteem rises you’ll hone that skill of yours and make it your own. You may not be a jack of all trades in the end, but its better than being a master of none.
This doesn’t go to say that even if you do something that isn’t aligned with your personality you won’t have success in that field; many people are successful but in the wrong field and continuously lead a life comparing themselves to others and having a low level of self-esteem.
Finding your personality traits:
Method 1: Trial and error
Try picking up an activity or subject that you think you might enjoy.
o Most intimate learning experience
o Can risk embarrassment and continuously failing can shatter self-esteem
Method 2: Introspection (reflecting)
Spend 5min a day reflecting on your behaviour and write down your thoughts!
Below are a few examples of questions you could ask yourself when trying to figure out your patterns of behaviour.
- How do I respond when I am angry with someone?
- Do I tend to take charge in a conversation?
- Am I outspoken or quiet?
- Am I an introvert or extrovert?
Try reading Personality Plus by Florence Littauer to discover a bit more about yourself and your personality!
Written by Himal